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Stephanie. 25. English Masters Graduate. Looking to gain muscle, strength, and confidence. Ask me about fitness, body image, food; mental health, mental illness, toxic relationships; literature, grammar, Harry Potter; Queer Theory, Gender Studies, Feminism.

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Bill Hader is the dancing queen

(Source: stefon-rneyers)

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blondesquats:

fullcravings:

Cookie Dough Stuffed Cupcakes

OH MY FUCK

That cupcake needs to live in a mouth like mine for a few seconds

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ex0skeletal:

Pro Tip: Instead of having feelings, try being dead inside. Everything is still horrible but you will not care at all.

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(Source: jetbag)

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midnight-mindpalace:

shELDON YOU ABSOLUTE SWEETHEART

(Source: thebigbangtheorists)

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amarisskye:

itsb0sstime:

georgia-dream:

if your boyfriend is your best friend, you’re doing it right.

if your boyfriend is your only friend, you’re doing it wrong.

THANK. YOU.

Yes. This. & vice versa.

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arrestedliterature:

Mrs. Dalloway by Virginia Woolf 

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"Feminism is not about who opens the jar.

It is not about who pays for the date. It is not about who moves the couch. It is not about who kills the bugs. It is not about who cooks the dinner. It’s not even about who stays home with the kids, as long as the decision was made together, after thinking carefully about your situation and coming to an agreement that makes sense for your particular marriage and family.

It is about making sure that nobody ever has to do anything by “default” because of their gender. The stronger person should move the couch. The person who enjoys cooking more, has more time for it, and/or is better at it should do the cooking. Sometimes the stronger person is male, sometimes not. Sometimes the person who is best suited for cooking is female, sometimes not. You should do what works.

But it is also about letting people know that it is okay to change. If you’re a woman who wants to become stronger, that’s great. If you’re a man who wants to learn how to cook, that’s also great. You might start out with a relationship where the guy opens all the jars and the girl cooks all the meals, but you might find that you want to try something else. So try it."
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A Guide to Terminology as used by Western Males of the Species

thescienceofjohnlock:

societyghost:

Prude - a woman who won’t fuck you

Dyke - a woman who won’t fuck you because you have a penis

Slut - a woman who fucks other people and not you

Tease - a woman who won’t fuck you even though she smiled at you

Feminist - a woman who won’t fuck you because she has, like, thoughts and stuff

Bitch - a woman who treats you the same as you treat women

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http://girllookitthatbody-ahh.tumblr.com/post/100462680823/him-so-my-mom-was-just-chatting-with-me

learningtobealiveagain:

girllookitthatbody-ahh:

him: So my mom was just chatting with me idly. Then she says, ”I bought some glue so you could make her [meaning me] a card.” I should’ve jumped off that damn building

me: oh shut up.

him: Well that just stabbed me in gut

me: You realize you saying shit like that to me is abusive. It’s awful. Why do I have to worry for your life every time I try to break up with you?

him: You don’t

me: I do. ohhhh I do

him: I’m being dramatic like an idiot. don’t listen to me…. I promised I’ll be here for you

me: DO YOU KNOW WHAT SAYING SHIT LIKE THAT DOES TO A PERSON. 

IT MAKES THEM AFRAID TO CONFRONT SITUATIONS THAT REQUIRE CONFRONTING.

IT MAKES THEM AFRAID TO LEAVE A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP FOR FEAR OF THE OTHER PERSON’S LIFE

him: don’t worry, okay? I’m sorry…

me: for the sake of being dramatic………

how

fucking

dare

you
HOW FUCKING DARE YOU

HOW

DARE

YOU

him: I’m sorry… I’ll leave you alone. I didn’t want to set you off like that… I’m ashamed

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THIS IS WHAT AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP LOOKS LIKE, PEOPLE. IF SOMEONE TELLS YOU THEY’D DIE WITHOUT YOU OR IF YOU TRY TO BREAK UP WITH THEM AND THEY THREATEN TO OVERDOSE OR TAKE THEIR LIFE OR HURT THEMSELVES OR JUMP OFF A 27-STORY BUILDING, THAT IS ABUSE. IT IS A MANIPULATIVE CONTROL TACTIC TO KEEP YOU AROUND. IT IS DONE OUT OF SELFISHNESS, NOT OUT OF LOVE FOR YOU.

If someone does this to you, call their bluff and get dispatch sent to their house/work/wherever they are. This ensures that a legitimate suicide attempt can hopefully be stopped and also takes the problem out of your hands. I have had to do that twice in my life and both times it was all talk on their end, but it got me out of the situation and away from their influence.

I have done that twice. The first time I took him to emerge because he overdosed and the second time I notified his brother who called the police and they went to his place.

That’s the problem though — it’s almost always just talk, but you never want to risk their safety by assuming they’re bluffing. But yeah, I agree completely. As a significant other/ex it is not your responsibility. If they are truly worried they will hurt themselves they can admit themselves into the hospital under suicide watch or, like you said, you can call for dispatch. 

In any case, their actions aren’t your fault. I’m totally displacing myself from this conversation by avoid any “I’s” but yeah, it isn’t your responsibility to function as their saviour especially when they know you feel guilty and will use it to their advantage to lure you back in.

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feminishblog:

I won’t preface or clarify any statement I make with “some men” instead of “men”.

It’s too many men, and it’s not enough men, but it’s always men.

I don’t need to explain or justify myself, because those people of quality I hope to reach know and understand who I am talking about. I’m not worried about male readers reading this post and thinking I’m “attacking” them.

If a man follows my blog and wants to educate himself, he will either A.) Understand that he does not personally do those things, but will recognize the importance of the issue, or B.) He’ll realize he has participated in these subtle but sure acts of violence, and will hopefully begin to rethink/change his ways.

I want men to read my blog, but I won’t coddle the privileged. I won’t ignore the problem in hopes of “playing nice” and being a “friendly feminist”.

Note: For the white man who will inevitably ask me how I feel when PoC say “White people” instead of “Some white people”, I say: I feel great about it. Because it is white people.

Speaking out does not equal hate.

Refusing to be attacked does not make one an instigator.

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abbygubler:

repeat after me:

there are white people suffering in the world

but the white people who are suffering are not suffering because they are white

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I said, “The only way I can play someone this hard is for something to be peeled away each week, and the first thing that needs to go is the wig.” I just wanted to deal with her hair. It’s a big thing with African-American women…You start when you’re just a young girl. Do you twist it? Do you leave it natural when it’s so hard to take care of? Then you start wearing wigs but every night before bed you’ve got to take the wig off and deal with your hair underneath. And it’s a part of Annalise that I needed the writers to deal with because I’ve never seen it, ever, on TV and I thought it would be very powerful. It’s part of her mask. - Viola Davis (x)

(Source: getawaywithgifs)